More Pleasure In Your Life NOW!

A friend sent me this song this week. The lyrics immediately made me think of the transformation that happens when you ‘suddenly’ connect with pleasure in a meaningful way. It truly impacts every area of your life. It's like an explosion of more YOU.

Let's start with the word pleasure. My definition of pleasure is to be fully present in the experience of a moment. I’m not talking about the dopamine hit we get from likes on social media, or from someone hot ‘matching’ us on a dating app, or from watching porn. I’m talking about the deeply satisfying experience of allowing yourself to fully feel whatever it is you need to feel. The pleasure of letting yourself be sad when you watch a sad movie. The pleasure of NOT having your phone around while you catch up with a friend. The pleasure of allowing yourself to feel lonely rather than trying to numb it out with distractions. So many moments of pleasure are available to us in our daily life and we often race past them without even noticing.

‘Many of us pursue pleasure in such breathless haste that we rush past it’

This happens often in our daily life which means it is happening often in our sex life. As we've talked about before, our habits outside the bedroom have a huge impact on how we experience sexual pleasures.

One of the practices I give to almost every 1-on-1 client is to make a list of their Non-Sexual Pleasures (or NSPs as one client named them). For 2 weeks, my coaching clients create a list of daily activities or experiences that they find pleasurable. Moments throughout the day that they truly savor. Simply by directing their attention to looking for them, they find the pleasure that’s already in their daily life. By focusing on this pleasure, they naturally want to experience more of it (that’s how pleasure works) and they start to adapt their habits to allow themselves more of these non-sexual pleasures. The changes can be super small, like a new mom putting her phone in the other room while she enjoys the coos and giggles her young baby, an entrepreneur taking a pause in a team meeting to share a joke because they enjoy everyone’s laughter, a lawyer creating time in her day to dance around to her favourite songs, and so much more.

Give it a go!

You have 2 weeks left in Masturbation May and this practice would be an INCREDIBLE way to enhance the pleasure you experience solo or with a partner.

Up for an extra challenge? Share your NSP on social media and tag me 😉