5 Simple Steps to Create Your Sacred Self-Care Space (No Matter Where You Are)

Let’s be real—we’re all busy AF. Between work, relationships, and basic adulting, finding time for yourself can feel like trying to catch a unicorn in the wild. But trust me when I say: carving out a little time and space for you is where the magic happens. As a holistic sex coach, I see firsthand how creating a sacred self-care space helps us tap into our desires, deepen our connection to pleasure, and reclaim our inner spark (which is a game changer whether you’re solo, dating, or in a committed relationship).

Whether you’re grounded in a home or living that nomad life, it’s time to set up a space that feels just right. Don’t worry—you don’t need to break the bank or have a Pinterest-perfect setup to create this. I’ve got you covered with five simple, DIY-friendly steps that work wherever you are.

Let’s get into it!

1. Choose Your Spot (a.k.a. Your Chill Zone)

You don’t need a fancy corner of your house to create a sacred space—it just needs to feel good for you. Maybe it’s the corner of your bedroom, a windowsill, or even your bathroom floor (seriously, I’ve been there). For my nomads, this could be a cozy nook in your Airbnb or even a little outdoor spot where you can retreat. The key is finding somewhere that feels good and where you won’t be disturbed. You’re building a bubble of calm, where the world’s BS can’t reach you.

Pro tip: For my fellow travelers, scope out a corner as soon as you arrive in your hotel room, an epic beach view, or even a quiet park bench. Your chill zone can be anywhere you feel the good vibes.

2. Bring a Little Nature into the Mix

Who doesn’t love a little nature? Even if you’re like me and struggle to keep plants alive (my therapist says its the commitment issue lol), there are so many ways to add some natural beauty to your sacred space. Grab a cactus, a bouquet of fresh flowers (freshly picked or bought), or even a cool crytal or shell from your latest adventure. Nature grounds us, reminding us to slow down, breathe deep, and enjoy the moment.

I’m obsessed with crystals because they’re easy to pack if you’re on the go, and they bring all kinds of feel-good energy. Rose quartz is my go-to for self-love (and it’s light in my luggage), while amethyst helps me chill TF out. Whatever you pick, make sure it’s something that makes your space feel like your personal oasis.

3. Set the Mood with Lighting (Let’s Get Cozy!)

Lighting is EVERYTHING when it comes to creating a sacred space. Soft, warm lighting transforms any spot from “meh” to magical. Candles are always a win, but if you’re a nomad or in a place where flames are a no-no, grab some cute battery-operated candles or fairy lights. Trust me, they’ll work wonders.

When you light up your space, it’s like you’re giving yourself permission to slow down and turn inward. Plus, a little mood lighting makes everything feel extra special. Don’t you deserve that?

4. Add a Dash of Sensory Magic

This is where you get to really personalize! Engage your senses to really drop into the moment. Whether you’re using essential oils, incense, or a soft, fuzzy throw blanket, these little touches help turn your space into a full-body experience. It’s like turning on your personal pleasure dial and letting yourself just be.

Lavender is my go-to for instant calm, while peppermint oils are great when I need a pick-me-up. Traveling? Keep a little sensory kit handy with your favorite scents or textures that you can pull out whenever you need a little dose of home.

5. Make It Yours (and Pack it Up If You Need To!)

Here’s the thing: your sacred space is YOURS, so it should reflect you. Don’t be afraid to add personal touches that make you feel good, whether that’s a journal, a crystal, or a cozy puff. The best part? If you’re a traveler, you can easily create a portable version of your space. Keep a small kit with your fave items to recreate that zen vibe wherever you go.

Whether you’re jet-setting or staying put, remember that your self-care space is there to help you slow down and reconnect with yourself—whenever, wherever.

Why a Holistic Sex Coach Cares About Your Self-Care Space (And Why You Should Too!)

You might be wondering, "Jenna, why are you, a sex coach, talking about self-care spaces?" Here’s the deal: how we care for ourselves directly impacts how we experience pleasure, connection, and intimacy. When you set up a space to focus on your well-being, you’re telling your body and mind, “Hey, I matter. My pleasure matters.”

This is the foundation for everything—whether you’re looking to reignite passion with your partner, boost your solo pleasure, or just take a breather from the craziness of life. Your sacred space becomes your go-to for slowing down, dropping back into your body, and reconnecting with what lights you up inside.

And if you still don’t get how mindfulness and pleasure are linked, check out this blog I wrote a while back on the topic.

So, whether you’re lounging at home or exploring the world, creating a sacred self-care space is one of the most powerful (and playful!) ways to tune in, recharge, and take care of yourself. Your pleasure is worth it.